I just wrote a detailed post about motheres, mortgages and wedding plans and somehow I lost it. Argh. Here's the short version:

I spoke to my Mom about us going to see about getting a pre-approved Mortgage and buying a place together. She got upset, threatened to withold inheritance money from my Grandma if we weren't married first. I got upset and told her what I thought of that. (grrrr) But the conversation did make me realize what I want in a wedding and why I hadn't been planning one up until now - I had been trying to please everyone else and the thought of having to do that had overwhelmed me. M. and I sat down and talked about what WE want. Ideas began with eloping and faxing them a copy of the marriage certificate (heheh that'll show 'em!)... but not wanting to alienate both of our families, we decided that what we really want is a small ceremony with a marriage commissioner here in Nelson with just our parents in attendance followed by a pot luck party in Vancouver later in the week (planned by our parents so they can have who/what they want there - with our input of course...). We want to buy ourselves some nice clothes for the wedding, have rings made by KSA jewellery students and just keep things simple. It's never quite that simple, though. I know things will come up. But we'll deal with them when they do. We don't want presents, just friends to write us a letter and wish us well, or come and bring something they're proud of to the pot luck, or visit us some other time in the year. Our home is open to visitors year round - and I love to show people around Nelson!

We don't mean to exclude anyone with these plans, we just think that it's all about making this our beginning here in Nelson and sharing our bonding afterwards with family and friends. I don't want a big fuss and I don't really feel close enough to any one person (other than Matthew) to choose a maid/matron of honour, so this is how we've planned things.

I had more eloquent things to say in the first post... but I think this gives the jist of it. I'm happy about this - and glad that we finally realized what WE want to do. *glee*